No it isn’t.

That’s a lie.

It’s just easier not to deal with your disappointment in other people anymore so “I’ll just do it myself” is how you protect yourself.

But it’s a lie.

And it’s sucking the life out of you.

So what’s a girl to do when she knows she’s killing herself picking up all the dropped pieces that everyone else keeps missing or failing or forgetting? 

1. Stop. Tell the truth. This isn’t working. Not anymore.
2. Decide what you want for yourself; not the business, not the family, not the marriage. YOUR self.
3. Learn how to set expectations with everyone in your life,  not just employees. Because if you aren’t doing it at work, you’re not doing it at home.
4. Re-invite people to live/work/love with you based on your clear expectations and what they can expect from you.
5. Acknowledge you have contributed to the problem by holding up the relationship(s) instead of honoring your personal needs and it’s led to partnership built on your hyper vigilance rather than mutual contribution.
6. Learn what accountability looks like and it doesn’t look like you fixing their mistakes. Accountability is simply having the conversation that redirects the assignment of the result back to the person who was supposed to do it. Not to take it upon yourself.
7. Decide what your choice will be if/when people in your life do not align with your expectations, repeatedly. Make it now. This decision is vital.
8. Go forward and know there will be change. Not everyone will come with you. When you’ve sucked it up for so long, there will be people in your life who will think you’re being a bitch, too demanding or rigid. It will suck. But it is necessary for you.
9. Commit that you will always invite people into your life or business with your newly honored co-creating agreements. The ones you are committing to and what you’re inviting them to agree to.
10. Take a breath. You got here because you’ve worked your ass off. And the truth is you will not reach the fruition of your vision unless you drop ‘I’ll do it all myself” and change it to “I’ll do it with a new version of myself and a team (in life and work) who are committed, willing, and ready to bear the equal vigilance required to co-create something magnificent.”

You can no longer indulge the belief “it’s just easier if I do it all myself”.

It’s the lie that is slowly making you despise and resent your business, your partnerships and relationships …. And it is fostering more of the same.

Because when you continue to believe “it’s just easier if I do it all myself”, that’s exactly what you’ll keep getting…

Doing it all by yourself.

Until you can’t.

And that won’t be their fault.

It will be yours.

This is a solvable problem.

And the transformation begins with you.