For Women Who Are Tired of Carrying Everyone Else's Fear
The past few weeks have been a masterclass in nervous system dysregulation. If you're a woman who leads, you're not just managing your own response to chaos—you're managing everyone else's too. Even when you turn it off, others keep bringing it to you.
Here are ten practices that create immediate relief. Not someday when things calm down, but today.
1. Stop Ingesting Other People's Distress
We are fueling ourselves with other people's chaos—watching videos that never resolve, scrolling through unending rage, absorbing fear from every corner of the planet. For just 7 days, shut off what doesn't serve you and only nurture what makes you flourish. You'll find out what you need to know. We always do.
2. Stop Arguing With Reality
When you argue with the past, arguing always wins. When you worry about the future, worry always wins. There is no way things are "supposed to be"—only the way things are. Fighting with what is only perpetuates your pain. This call is for you, not for the world.
3. Recognize When You're Fighting to Keep Your Pain
If you find yourself saying "I know, but..." or "Yeah, but if we..." you're fighting to stay stuck. Catch yourself the next time you argue yourself into remaining in pain. You deserve relief more than you deserve to be right about why you're suffering.
4. Ask Two Questions When You Feel the Swirl
When overwhelm hits, anchor yourself with these:
- What do I stand for? (Reconnect to your values)
- What is one thing I can do within my control right now?
It doesn't matter if it's writing, calling your kids, straightening the couch, or writing to Congress. What matters is that you remind yourself where you have authority and agency immediately.
5. Remember: Experience Is Your Advisor, Not Your Fortune Teller
As we accumulate experience, we can start to believe it predicts the future. It doesn't. Experience gives us good information, but when we use it to fear futures that haven't happened yet, we're living in a story that doesn't exist. Let experience teach you, not terrorize you.
6. Ask Yourself: How Is My Life Delicious Right Now?
This is the question that brings you back to yourself. Even when things are hard, there is deliciousness. Your puppies. Your daughter home for the weekend. Your new shoes. Your warm car with the heated steering wheel. Find 3-5 things. When you ask this question, you stimulate a different emotion, and from higher vibration emotion, you create differently.
7. Get the Support You Actually Need
What kind of support do you need that you don't have? A coach? A therapist? More help in your business? Someone to check in with every few days to help you stay aligned? You are the asset. Listen to me: when we look at the three circles of control, concern, and influence, guess who's in the middle? You.
8. Plan Fun and Play First
Fun should be first. Always. Where can you go feel the lightness and joy of being human? It doesn't matter if it doesn't sound like fun to someone else—it needs to be fun for you. Pickleball. Sitting in the sun. Your swing. A weekend with a friend. Plan it first on your calendar without guilt.
9. Create Something
You are a creator. Whether it's writing, painting, cooking, fixing things, playing music, or scrubbing grout with a toothbrush—go create. When you create, you heal yourself. And when you heal yourself, you know how to heal others. We need more people creating. We need more people loving. And you have to give it to yourself before you can give it away.
10. Understand That Negative Emotions Are Warning Signs, Not Daily Outfits
Fear, anger, rage, overwhelm—these are meant to help our nervous system pay attention. But we are not built to live in them all day, every day. If you're feeling rage constantly, recognize it's being manufactured. The chaos is the strategy. Step out of the machine and back into your life.
The Truth About Relief
Relief isn't about never feeling discomfort again. It's about recognizing when you're triggered before you spiral. It's about having tools to regulate yourself so you can think clearly and respond wisely. It's about trusting yourself to handle whatever comes, even when it's uncomfortable.
We are not meant for the amount of nervous system dysregulation we're experiencing every day. Daily chaos has become normalized, but it isn't normal and it is so unhealthy.
You are vital. We need you strong, loved, and supported. That is not selfish—it is required. It is basic and fundamental.
Focus on your circle of control. Find your joy. Take care of your vessel—mind and body. We need you.
If you're ready to stop suffering in loops of overwhelm and self-doubt, my How to Find Relief 12-week program launches March 10th, 2026. We'll work together in real time to identify your triggers, rewire your patterns, and build practices that allow you to lead without constantly fighting yourself.
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